I've gotten asked for advice many times recently about how to help kids with ADHD. Whew. It's not easy but man is it a HUGE blessing. But really, is parenting every easy? All kids come with their own unique challenges and blessings and our job is to help them become the best version of them. And to ask for LOTS of forgiveness in the process.
There is so much misinformation out there about ADHD and SO much shame. Way too much shame!
What is ADHD?
ADHD is a neurological disorder that impacts the parts of the brain that help us plan, focus on, and execute tasks. There are 3 subtypes of ADHD and it can present very differently based on age, gender, personality and secondary concerns. The cause is unknown but it's highly genetic and linked to levels of dopamine in the brain.
What are the Symptoms?
Lack of focus
Poor time management
Weak impulse control
Not everyone has ALL of these...
We've decided to homeschool the boys this next year and are actually excited about it. I'm as surprised as anyone!
I homeschooled our oldest for kindergarten and it was sweet and special but also really hard. Back then, he was an only child so he needed my attention 100% all the time. I had an idea that he too was ADHD and knew he wasn't ready to sit all day in the classroom. It was the right decision for that year but by May as we were beginning our foster care journey, I was ready for him to go to school full-time.
He has LOVED his school. He's been attending a sweet, small private school near our home with many of his dear friends. He's excelled there and feels seen and known. It's been such a gift.
Our family looks very different now. My big boy is now 9 and entering 4th grade. He's a voracious reader and creative thinker. He adores being a big brother to his little brother (5, now entering kinder) and his baby sister (19 months).
Over the last few months of this...
Have you ever read a quote in a book and felt like your heart just leapt out of your chest? Or that you wanted to jump up and give the author a huge hug and scream YES, YES, YES! You know, that feeling that you aren't alone in the world after all and your experience of the world makes a little more sense?!? I read these words a few days ago and that's pretty much what happened.
Does that give you the chills or is it just me? It's like someone just confirmed my deepest feelings. This is absolutely true for me though it took me years to really understand it. For me, work is 100% part of my mental health strategy. It's about so much more than a paycheck.
You see, I didn't have huge aspirations for a career. In fact, in college I believed the lie that since I have ADHD and did't want to be on medicine long term that I would never be "successful" in business. I opted for a joke major that was actually incredibly boring. I didn't understand my brain. I didn't understand my...
Once upon a time, I was a runner. Okay, not a fast runner. But like I RAN. I even ran a marathon. SLOWLY. One time. But, I did it!
About three years ago, I developed almost debilitating pain in my feet. At the time, I was in great shape and working out regularly. I was working out a lot and not making good shoe choices and BAM it hit. It.was.awful! That summer I could barely walk around my house. I would go to the grocery store and then stay in bed the rest of the day with ice packs on my feet. As a mom to a five year old little boy, it was not ideal!
The pain finally subsided but the only way that I've really found to manage the pain is to avoid flare ups. For exercise, I opt for the elliptical over long walks or runs. I stopped doing planks, lunges or anything that might aggravate my feet. And then I've added a few different practices that have helped keep the flare ups away.
1. I stretch my feet and ankles regularly. I've tried so many different contraptions out there...
I'll be honest, I've always been pretty pro-medicine for my ADHD. I went through a few years in college and post-college where I took myself off medicine and let's just say it wasn't pretty. I was an anxious mess. So much of my time and energy went to self medicating. I was literally walking for like 2 hours a day just to be able to sit still through my classes. I wasn't sleeping and couldn't turn my mind off. I was constantly rehearsing things for my life and worried that I was going to mess something up.
I tried several different things but in terms of prescription medicine, I've found that a mix of Cymbalta and Concerta are the right mix for me. I'm no doctor so please talk to your physician about what they'd recommend. I tried several things before finding the right mix. The stimulants are easier to tell if it's working but the anti-depressants take a little more time. I found that as an adult my ADHD looks very much like anxiety and the anti-depressant is an important part of...
My ADHD impacts so much of me and even I have a hard time making sense of it. As my friend, I think there's a few things you should know to better understand my unique brain. These aren't excuses but I do think they'll shed light on how you experience me.
What is ADHD?
"ADHD is a lifelong, neurobehavioral, genetic syndrome that leads to a structural, chemical, communication, and arousal differences in the brain that subsequently impact what is called the "executive functioning" system of the brain." Sari Solden and Michelle Frank in Women with ADHD
Inattentive ADHD: Struggle to get going or activate to to do things, forgetful, disorganized, zoning out, hard to manage time, and emotional sensitivity.
Impulsive ADHD: Emotionally and mentally hyperactive, hard time sitting still, impulsive, interrupt others frequently, and often have an inner sense of restlessness.
Combo ADHD: A little bit of both above and have many characteristics of the inattentive type but...
I’m telling you this smoothie recipe is life changing. Like FOR REAL! Add this stuff to your grocery list and start your day with it. I honestly don’t love smoothies for breakfast normally. I always feel great when I have one but this one has made such a huge impact by body is craving it!
1 cup filtered water
1/2 an Apple
1/2 a pear
1/2 a frozen banana
2 stalk of celery
1 small cucumber or 1/2 a normal one
2 cups spinach
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1 scoop of high quality collagen
Of course, organic fruits and veggies are best.
Make sure you have a good blender to make sure it gets smooth. This one has been working great for me.
I drink half around 8 am and then store the extra in the fridge in a mason jar until after I exercise and shower.
It will give you body a natural energy boost and make your skin look AMAZING.
In terms of collagen, one thing to keep in mind is to make sure that it says HYDROLYZED COLLAGEN 2. That is the only kind of collagen that will...
Hey mama! I seriously love talking about Time Blocking and truly believe this one simple discipline will help you in a huge way. It's been a game changer for my life. Time blocking has helped me to live out my priorities, develop consistency in many areas, and better understand my capacity to take on new commitments.
If you love a paper calendar, I encourage you to at least set up an online calendar system for accountability purposes. Having the reminders on my phone and/or watch are very helpful at keeping me on task. It also helps that you can use the reoccurring function when setting things up so that you can adjust your time blocking every few months as needed but not weekly.
Just like any habit, Time Blocking takes intentionality at first but once you get the hang of it, it becomes second nature. Habits are powerful. It's our daily habits that shape how we spend our days and how we spend our days shapes how we spend our life.
Watch the video and download the FREE...
Bowman loved cereal bars when he was an itty bitty and now Libby is loving them too. I pulled out an old recipe yesterday and made a few tweaks. They were a big hit and will be working their way in to our regular rotation. Here's a little peak at our daily life and my sweet little helper, Libby. Please let me know if you love them as much as we do!