Okay, confession time! I hate clutter. It drives me nuts. I also don't like my own handwriting. So many ADHD folks use post its and white boards to track all of the things and that just doesn't work for me. It's hard for me to use a system if it's not pretty. And a system is only good if you use it!
My favorite thing about homeschool is the ability to focus on life skills and habits. It's also the hardest part! With two very easily distracted boys, I can feel like I'm nagging ALLLLL day long. And then add in their easily distracted and easily frustrated mom (that would be ME!) and it's kind of a recipe for disaster.
I've tried so many things and slowly been tweaking our daily life to find a plan that works for us. Here's what I've been working towards...
Thriving with ADHD in Motherhood is definitely a journey. Many things that work for others to manage their business, household and finances, just don't work for me. Learning that and giving myself permission to find what works for ME has been so helpful.
Shame is a major issue for many of us with ADHD because for many years and in many situations, we've tried to fit in with the norm. But we were never meant to fit in! We are meant to think and do things differently and to be trailblazers and pioneers. We are the dreamers, the doers, the CREATIVE GENIUSES!
Here are a few tools that are helping me in thrive in life.
1. The Chime Card. I'm legit obsessed with this. I really struggle with managing money. I've made so many budgets over the years and tried so many softwares but this is the first tool that really has helped me reign in my habits and give me confidence. We still use YNAB for tracking our overall spending for our family, but my husband loads a specified amount on...
Those with ADHD are 6x more likely to start our own business! We dream big and think outside the box. We also aren’t great being told what to do so being self employed is a great fit.
Social selling is a great low risk entry point in to entrepreneurship. You can learn sales skills, social media, and mindset in a very hands on way. And for those of us Stay At Home Moms, it's such a great way to build an income stream in a flexible way. I 100% believe that having an outlet for growth is essential to thriving in ADHD motherhood. It's so much more than just making an income. More on that here!
Social Selling can be a great fit for us ADHDers but here are a few things you need to keep in mind.
1. What works for neurotypicals might not work for you! Don’t let anyone tell you that you HAVE to build your business a certain way. Trust your gut and your creative ideas! There are so many ways to grow a business and forcing yourself to do something that’s boring...
It's my favorite time of year! I love planning for Thanksgiving and Christmas and gift shopping. I tend to be a little obsessive about finding the perfect gift. I really don't like clutter and want to give gifts that delight but are also practical and functional. I definitely over think it!
In case you are the same, I wanted to throw together a few recommendations on things that I'm loving that I think would be crowd pleasers for those on your list.
Okay, I'll be honest, this is all stuff that I personally love to give and get!
This Adorable Pink Hoodie from Target is only $25 and so comfy.
The Hydroflask is the cool water bottle of the moment. I love a BIG water bottle with a straw so that it doesn't spill if knocked over.
I'm a big fan of eye masks and the silk ones are extra special. Target is carrying them this year in some really pretty colors and they are only $15.
Target is also carrying silk pillowcases in the same colors as the eye masks for $30. Silk...
I love Thanksgiving and have hosted for most of our marriage. I used to think cooking a turkey was so overwhelming. It felt like a real rite of passage when I prepared my first Thanksgiving turkey and I've come to really enjoy it!
I'm a problem solver and entertainer. I'm also a do-er and being present and still with my family can be hard. I've had to create some really intentional practices to choose REST and presence over the constant motion. I also have had to learn how to plan well so that the holidays aren't stressful.
We are fed this lie over and over that the Holidays should be crazy. The over eating, the over drinking, the over spending. It's become the normal and we all just press along until December 26th.
But, that's not the story that I want for my motherhood. I want to be fully present and to ENJOY my family. Yummy, beautiful, delicious food is a MUST for me so I'm not one that can just outsource the whole thing. So instead, I've gotten really good at...
As an Entrepreneur with ADHD, I LOVE email. Well, actually, I personally hate emails. Ha! My inbox is an absolute disaster. #sorrynotsorry
But, I do having an email strategy in place. I lead a full and busy life and want the energy I spend in "work mode" to be spent on the creative things that give me JOY and on loving and helping others. I'm HAPPY to outsource follow up. And that's what email enables me to do.
Are you a little confused about what kind of emails you should be sending out and why? I was! I kept reading posts and seeing ads telling me that I needed an email list. I was sending newsletters out on the regular but I felt like I was missing something. I was getting communication out but it didn't seem to resonate with people and wasn't getting me sales. I began experimenting and trying new things and here's what I learned.
1. Personal and Authentic is Magic. Pictures of my family, real life updates and stuff like that was WAY more effective then a...
I've gotten asked for advice many times recently about how to help kids with ADHD. Whew. It's not easy but man is it a HUGE blessing. But really, is parenting every easy? All kids come with their own unique challenges and blessings and our job is to help them become the best version of them. And to ask for LOTS of forgiveness in the process.
There is so much misinformation out there about ADHD and SO much shame. Way too much shame!
What is ADHD?
ADHD is a neurological disorder that impacts the parts of the brain that help us plan, focus on, and execute tasks. There are 3 subtypes of ADHD and it can present very differently based on age, gender, personality and secondary concerns. The cause is unknown but it's highly genetic and linked to levels of dopamine in the brain.
What are the Symptoms?
Lack of focus
Poor time management
Weak impulse control
Not everyone has ALL of these...
We've decided to homeschool the boys this next year and are actually excited about it. I'm as surprised as anyone!
I homeschooled our oldest for kindergarten and it was sweet and special but also really hard. Back then, he was an only child so he needed my attention 100% all the time. I had an idea that he too was ADHD and knew he wasn't ready to sit all day in the classroom. It was the right decision for that year but by May as we were beginning our foster care journey, I was ready for him to go to school full-time.
He has LOVED his school. He's been attending a sweet, small private school near our home with many of his dear friends. He's excelled there and feels seen and known. It's been such a gift.
Our family looks very different now. My big boy is now 9 and entering 4th grade. He's a voracious reader and creative thinker. He adores being a big brother to his little brother (5, now entering kinder) and his baby sister (19 months).
Over the last few months of this...
Have you ever read a quote in a book and felt like your heart just leapt out of your chest? Or that you wanted to jump up and give the author a huge hug and scream YES, YES, YES! You know, that feeling that you aren't alone in the world after all and your experience of the world makes a little more sense?!? I read these words a few days ago and that's pretty much what happened.
Does that give you the chills or is it just me? It's like someone just confirmed my deepest feelings. This is absolutely true for me though it took me years to really understand it. For me, work is 100% part of my mental health strategy. It's about so much more than a paycheck.
You see, I didn't have huge aspirations for a career. In fact, in college I believed the lie that since I have ADHD and did't want to be on medicine long term that I would never be "successful" in business. I opted for a joke major that was actually incredibly boring. I didn't understand my brain. I didn't understand my...
Once upon a time, I was a runner. Okay, not a fast runner. But like I RAN. I even ran a marathon. SLOWLY. One time. But, I did it!
About three years ago, I developed almost debilitating pain in my feet. At the time, I was in great shape and working out regularly. I was working out a lot and not making good shoe choices and BAM it hit. It.was.awful! That summer I could barely walk around my house. I would go to the grocery store and then stay in bed the rest of the day with ice packs on my feet. As a mom to a five year old little boy, it was not ideal!
The pain finally subsided but the only way that I've really found to manage the pain is to avoid flare ups. For exercise, I opt for the elliptical over long walks or runs. I stopped doing planks, lunges or anything that might aggravate my feet. And then I've added a few different practices that have helped keep the flare ups away.
1. I stretch my feet and ankles regularly. I've tried so many different contraptions out there...