My story
I got ADHD wrong for a long time.
I was diagnosed at 5. I did well in school, but I struggled with friendships and never knew anyone else like me. By college, I'd quietly decided ADHD meant I was capable of less.
When I became a stay-at-home mom, I thought being home would make everything easier. Boy, was I wrong. No structure, lots of boring, and a whole lot of coping in ways that didn't help, like overspending and drinking too much. From the outside, I looked organized. On the inside, I was overcompensating, overcommitting, and couldn't relax.
Then life got 10x harder.
After my third baby, perimenopause hit and my meds stopped working pretty much overnight. I was cranky, overstimulated, and hiding in my room by 4pm. It wasn't one big thing. It was a thousand little easy things plus the noise of three loud, busy kids. I'd been living over my capacity for so long that I completely burned out.
For years, I'd run our home on the adrenaline of staying really busy, and then leaning into the adrenaline that kicked in at the last minute. Each day was a race against the clock to get the everyday tasks done. I kept the balls in the air (well, mostly), but that constant chaos left me on edge, overstimulated, and very easily triggered.
So I found my own way.
Nothing I tried worked, so out of desperation, I started looking for my own solution. I read every ADHD book I could get my hands on and started applying those strategies to how I did motherhood, family life, and home management. I let go of some Pinterest-perfect standard and prioritized what I could actually maintain, what felt good for us, and what kept me out of burnout long term. Slowly, with a lot of trial and error, I built a simple framework that changed my life: recover first, then create capacity, then build systems that stick.
That framework became Master the Mundane, and it's now helped more than 10,000 moms with ADHD.
I'm not on top of everything, but I've learned to be on top of what matters to our family. I don't compare myself to others anymore, and I'm no longer plagued by shame, insecurity, and doubt. I've learned how to manage my home, family, and life in a way that works for me and leaves enough energy to support my kids well. I'm not a perfect mom, but I'm a really great mom.
