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Christmas Advice for New Moms

Uncategorized Dec 04, 2019

A friend posted this morning about looking for advice on Christmas traditions that celebrate the real meaning of Christmas. I feel like it’s something we all asked starting out. It’s seriously the best being able to be the mama at Christmas time and yet it also can feel like such a big responsibility. Here’s what I wish I could go back and tell myself 8 years ago. What would you want to tell your earlier self?

1. Don’t stress out about starting life long traditions right away. Take one year at a time. Certain things will stick and others won’t. As your kids personalities come out, they will help shape what stays. The things that they will love and be special to them might be the super random stuff you never intended to be a lasting tradition. Enjoy this season where you are and find a few age appropriate things that are fun for your little family. We tried to rush sooo many things. It’s our third year trying the same advent devotional and Bowman is just ready for it this year. Now he loves it.

2. If it feels like too much, it’s probably too much. Don’t compare yourself to others and do what is right for your family.

3. If you can’t afford it, it’s too much.

4. Invest in relationships. Those friends we had our first Christmas parties with babies crawling all over are our forever friends. Invest big in the early years. As life gets more complicated, it’s harder and harder to build those relationships.

5. Invest in memories and experiences. It’s okay if they don’t get what they want. It’s okay if they don’t have an elf on the shelf or get the electronic they ask Santa for this year. How they feel on Christmas morning is so much more important than what they get.

6. Talk to your spouse. This is a team sport. We all grew up differently and it takes a few years to figure out how you want to do this and what traditions matter to your family. Give each other grace! Debrief each year about what worked and didn’t work. You are a work in a progress and building a family doesn’t happen over night.

7. Trust your gut. You know your kids. Bowman never loved Santa! What other kiddos love might not be for yours.

 What would you add? I'd love to hear what you've learned over the years!

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